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There are so many women that are running from their abusers in order to live another day. I have met in Central Florida alone a great deal of women that left their families, and their homes just to have a life with safety and peace. The daily fear of the moods of your abuser, and whether or not he will make this your last day is a constant fear. The fear of Law Enforcement not making it to you in time and your life being cut short is frightening.
Many people ask why women do not leave their abusive situations, without realizing that the exit can make the abusers anger escalate even more, with a plan of murder in the works. These women fear for their lives daily, and many of them have just cause in believing that today might be their last day.
Can you imagine loving someone with all of your heart and then they beat you? There are many times when women are in so much shock that they cannot even believe what just happened. The abuser believes that in his haste to control he can convince you to be obedient. These perpetrators somehow continue to get away with their abuse even after being reported.
There is one woman who has been fighting in court back and forth to get child support and any type of assistance from her soon to be ex husband. This man has told her many times that she will end up dead and there is nothing that anyone can do about it. She has reported these threats to the police and they ask her if she has any proof; she said the only proof I will have is my death after he kills me.
Who really stands up for these women? What can we as a Community do, when this rein of violence bestows upon women? Domestic Violence and Domestic Abuse affect 1 in 4 women daily. In Countries like Pakistan they are throwing acid in the faces of women and distorting them for the rest of their lives, some believe this to be the same fate as death.
If society as a whole cannot protect women in danger, what do they do? The pattern of abuse can begin with just little steps toward isolation. You might hear things like I cannot imagine my life without you and I just want you all for myself and I do not want to share you with others. Initially many women believe this to be love and assume that this is the real deal when it comes to love, unknowing that it is a tactic to get in your mind and in your heart.
There is also the constant questioning of your whereabouts and who you have spoken with; as well as checking your phone and calling you constantly, with the expectancy of immediate answering of all calls, even when you are at work. You begin to fall into the web of control by being fearful of not following all rules to keep the peace. He leads you to believe that if you
Love him as much as he loves you, and then you would not have a problem with these rules that are meant to keep your relationship strong. The first time that you are hit is an extremely crucial period; this is where your reaction determines what will take place in the future. Some women are in shock and feel that it was their fault; while other women may say I am not the one to tolerate or accept abuse, and the relationship terminates immediately. Now in the latter case some men me feel betrayed and threaten the woman if she plans to leave, and if she does some men will execute them for not staying in the relationship.
Have you ever heard if I cannot have you no one else can? Well that is an old saying to take seriously, especially when so many men literally men it. This is not cute and harmless especially when the words are actually spoken in truth.
To be a Woman on the Run trying to find shelter and not be too obvious in her hideout it takes commitment and skill. You must always have a security kit in your trunk for the emergency getaway; which will include important documents and the basic essentials for everyday survival and life.
Now before all of this transpires you will get the tears and the apology. You mean the world to me, and you are my destiny, and my life means nothing without you. When you fall in love of course you feel obligated to compromise and make certain allowances for the relationship on a whole. You ignore your intuition and ignore the evident signs as you know that you do not want to be treated this way, I mean he is ordering your dinner, telling you when you can and cannot drink, as well as who to talk to and when; you know something is not right.
Many of us women when we are excited about a new relationship or just merely maintaining our current relationships we tend to get amnesia; as we ignore the relationship warning signs. We do not want to believe that our investment in this relationship failed or has short comings.
In a relationship there is give and take, love and disagreements, but when everything is always your fault and you are being blamed for the abuse, there is something wrong with this picture and you must wake up. It is not your fault that someone beats you, and no matter how much fear you experience, get a grip and get out. Always report your abuse, keep records and get an order of protection. We will share the step by step process of getting to safety and the various signs to alert you when abuse is evident. In abusive situations you cannot run to your mother’s house or a close family member, because you in turn place them in danger. The first place your abuser will check for you is by family and you must be very careful. Domestic Violence does not discriminate and it can attack the home of anyone from any economic status, so never feel it is just you. You are not to blame and domestic violence is not acceptable on any level. The time to leave is now.
Sharlene R. Prince is the President at The Women Rising Above Group, Inc and Founder, President & CEO at The Women Rising Above Group, Inc. She is also an Author and Advocate For Domestic Harmony.